This short movie is making the rounds. It’s a very poignant illustration of how a child’s life gets turned upside down and how the system can change a child into someone completely different. These are some of my thoughts as I watched. What are yours?
1. It’s not the child’s fault that they come into care. It’s not the child’s fault that they come into care. It’s not the child’s fault that they come into care.
2. In a domestic violence situation, children can be removed from both parents. Often the plan to get the children back can be extremely hard to overcome, especially if the perpetrator was the bread-winner. Finding a job, saving enough money to get an acceptable place to live, finding transportation to go to parenting classes and any other assigned activities in a set amount of time is overwhelming. Throw lack of education and/or addictions into the mix and a parent may never be able to get it together enough to get a child back.
3. Multiple moves give a child a reputation that can be hard to overcome. One of the first questions foster parents ask of any potential placement is how many homes and what is the reason for moving. A child labeled as difficult has a much less chance of finding permanency.
4. Interesting to see the inter-racial foster scenario. Before becoming a foster parent, I never knew that African-Americans would take in non-black children. Meeting black foster parents from my agency that have been fostering a long time and reading blogs from people like Pudding has given me a new perspective.
5. We never know what triggers a child’s memory of a traumatic incident and what the response may be.
6. I continue to be grateful and in awe of foster parents that open their home to sibling groups and sometimes very large sibling groups. This movie just reinforced how critical to emotional well-being it can be to know that your sibling is safe with you.
What did you think of the video?
For more information about the film, go here.